You're Too Picky - Not! Thought of the Week

"You're single, because you're picky!"

How many single women and men of all ages have heard that before? Let me tell you what my answer to that sentence is:
You BETTER be picky - this is a lifetime commitment.

My goal was never to be 'married' per se, but to find love.
I had often wondered: "Why is it okay to be picky over a dress or television set, but not over my life partner?
During good economic times (remember those?), it took people a year to find the right job, yet they expect single people to settle. It always made me wonder: Did they settle for their own spouse and they want to see me equally as unhappy?
I couldn't imagine living for better or for worse with someone who didn't float my boat. Or through richer or poorer. Imagine having to take care of someone in poor health, who you didn't really love?
It's Bubbie's opinion, that if you ARE picky, you're in a very good place. It tells the following about yourself:

A. That you are NOT so desperate that you're willing to settle.
B. That you LIKE yourself enough to know that you deserve a choice - not the first Billy Bubba to come around.
C. You're fearless. You're not afraid that this may be the best you'll ever get. (and)
D. You're not scared by what other people think or say. This is NOT your last chance. You will find love again.


Next week, we'll examine this subject further as we delve into the differences between being picky and "picking someone apart". We'll also learn that there are really no 'right' or 'wrong' qualities to insist upon in your mate - from the woman who says on her "must have" list is a man with a college degree - to a man who insists his woman "dress nicely".
There is truly someone for everyone. He/She is out there.

Do you have a relationship question for Bubbie? Please send an e-mail to: dearbubbie@yahoo.com. One letter per week, please and no pornography. We'll answer your question and the one that may best relate to others will be published here. Comments will always be welcome. Personal consultations are also available locally; and will be coming to Skype soon.